Room beside the missing
The goal was never for the grief to disappear. The goal is for something to stand beside it again.
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On grief, and getting moving again
Short pieces on unprocessed grief — how to recognise it in yourself, and what helps when it has got stuck. No ready-made answers; a calm look.
Small shifts: what change actually looks like
It's rarely a big moment. More often it's: 'Huh, I thought about it and it didn't hit as hard.'
Read more →When grief becomes your identity
You no longer know who you are without the grief. And that makes letting go frightening.
Read more →The first holidays after a loss
The empty chair at the table. The question of whether you'll 'just join in'. And the silence nobody names.
Read more →How grief affects your relationships without you realising
You don't understand the distance you feel from the people closest to you.
Read more →Grieving who you could have been
You don't only grieve what you lost. Sometimes you grieve what never was.
Read more →Why talking isn't always enough
You know your own story by heart. But the feeling doesn't shift with it.
Read more →When your grief has no name
The worst part isn't the grief itself. It's that nobody recognises it as grief.
Read more →The sentence you started believing after the loss
After the loss, you started believing something about yourself. That sentence holds everything in place.
Read more →What eye movements have to do with stuck feelings
It sounds strange. But your eyes are directly connected to how your brain processes memories.
Read more →Grief after a breakup: mourning someone who's still here
The hard part about this grief: the other person is still alive. And yet something has died.
Read more →Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget
Sometimes grief isn't in your head. It's in your shoulders, your stomach, your sleep.
Read more →Why your grief sometimes feels like anger
You don't understand why you're so irritable. Until you see the connection.
Read more →The silent agreement: how the people around you shape your grief
After a few months, people stop asking. And you adjust.
Read more →Grief is not something to solve
We're used to solving problems. But grief isn't a problem.
Read more →Are you allowed to be happy again after a loss?
The first time you really laugh again, it can feel as if you're not allowed to.
Read more →When grief stays
It isn't always the loud grief that stands out. Sometimes it's the quiet around it.
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